Former “GMA3” co-hosts Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes are shedding light on how they navigate conflicts within their relationship in the latest episode of their iHeartMedia podcast, “Amy and T.J.”
During the podcast, Robach revealed that Holmes tends to emotionally disengage after certain arguments, leaving her feeling unsettled. She expressed a preference for direct communication, stating, “Honestly, I would rather have him yell at me than freeze me out for two days… I spiral. I don’t know what to say, what to do, what he thinks.”
Holmes, in a conversation with psychologist Jeffrey Gardere, admitted that he occasionally withdraws for a day or two to process after a disagreement with Robach. He acknowledged his tendency to “check out” emotionally and emphasized his efforts to work through it more efficiently, stating, “I’m trying to get better about doing it quicker.”
The couple shared a unique coping mechanism they employ during arguments, introducing the phrase “Dan Steely” as a “safe phrase” to use when they feel a discussion may escalate. They explained that the phrase originated from a mix-up involving the rock band Steely Dan, leading to its adoption as a way to prevent potentially inflammatory remarks.
Discussing their publicized relationship, which made headlines in November 2022 when photos of them together surfaced, Robach and Holmes clarified that they were both in the process of divorcing their respective spouses at the time. The media frenzy resulted in their departure from ABC News in January 2023.
In a previous episode, the hosts touched on the prospect of marriage. Robach mentioned that it is under consideration, emphasizing their serious commitment to building a life together. Holmes expressed a desire to marry Robach, partly driven by a wish to update the way he introduces her, stating, “I want to marry you because you are 50 and I’m 46, and I am very sick of introducing you — a 50-year-old woman — ‘this is my girlfriend.’ That just sounds stupid.”
The podcast, “Amy and T.J.,” explores various topics, offering meaningful conversations about current events and pop culture. The former co-hosts are also set to collaborate on additional programming for iHeartPodcasts.